No One Appreciates a Negative Person

No One Appreciates a Negative Person 

Who can really appreciate a negative person? Their aura enters the door before they do, rubbing people the wrong way with that feeling of awkward, unhappiness, and irritation. Hearing them complain about everything, nagging about things that they cannot change, and drawing you into the conversation without your permission. Who wants to work with that feeling and better yet, who wants to live with it? Some people feel like this negativity somehow puts them in control. Distancing them from other emotion such as happiness, joy, and hope.Separating them from reality as they spiral deeper into depression and anxiety. I know a few people like that. Collecting disability, isolating themselves, and sitting alone in dark rooms. Talking to themselves about how intelligent they are and never truly doing anything at all except sitting in that shadowy room watching movies streams all day long.

Then there is the person that has to work and truly hates their life. Carrying the burden of despair on their shoulders and wondering why they can never advance. Co-workers try their best to avoid them as if they have a contagious disease that fester in the soul but they do their job proficiently, never miss a day of work, and never ask for anything so they are allowed to stay. Some would think there is an air of mystery about this person and find it intriguing, not realizing that this is just their co-dependency talking. They really just want to be a hero and the negative person just wants to be a victim so they begin feeding off each other like vampires. Until one person’s feeling takes over and dominates the other.

Usually it the negative feeling that take over the positive person and they become a shell of themselves. Weak, frail, and subservient with every excuse in the world as to why they are still with the negative person while their own spirit slowly but surely continues to fade away. Does this sound adventurous to you? Walking the path of fixing someone that does not want to be fixed? It doesn’t to me.

In my opinion, it seems that more people want to claim negativity and more people are finding this negativity attractive. Calling themselves negative names as terms of endearment. Calling the people that they consider their friends negative names and also calling their significant others negative names as well. They are not realizing that words can either be a cure or a poison because our realities are first created in the mind. When we start to except certain things then they become physical so if we except being around negative people then the brain has to conform to that nature in order to survive. That is no way to live. Then with the addition of drugs and alcohol being introduced, the psychosis begins to spread deeper and deeper and deeper into their very being until life all together feels hopeless.

It is great to have high expectations of the world because the opportunities are limitless once you learn how to focus and follow through but it seems that some people would rather dream than put in work towards their goals and when they fall short because they lack conviction, they began to feel cheated by the world rather than cheated by themselves. Weak-minded people would rather blame someone else besides for themselves for their failure not realizing that failure is also a gift. If we truly dig deep and are truly honest with ourselves there is always a way to get where you want to go it just takes work. With no car you can walk, with no legs you can crawl, and with no arms you can roll it just all relies on your will power and determination to achieve. If you find yourself around negative people you have to realize that you have a choice to either stay or leave even if you have to walk, crawl, or roll.

Negativity never leads to true progress even if it seems to be working out in your favor for the moment through negative activities. What some don’t realize is that the effects of those negative actions and feeling don’t really hit until you decide or have to stop. Then the brain begins to process the trauma untangling the negative ways you made money, abused your wife, and/or just treated your co-workers. Paranoia sets in and unless you have a strong will then this is a dark room that you may never escape. You truly do reap what you sew and the body always remembers because the mind won’t let it forget. No one really appreciates a negative person and as we get older we can close our eyes and see where that road leads. We can see the past, present, and future of that person as they continue down that dirt road of hopelessness. Because once upon a lifetime in some shape, form, or fashion we walked that road as well and the dirt is still on the bottom of our shoes.

-Keith Herbin