Is Online Dating Ruining Your Chance to Find Someone Real?

Is Online Dating Ruining Your Chance to Find Someone Real?  

Social media has brought everybody together while ultimately separated everyone even further apart and the invention of online dating has made it difficult for some people to choose someone to truly love. With the idea of there being tons of people to choose from by simply looking at their picture, swipe left or right, and writing some impersonal quick message are dating expectations becoming unrealistic.Women are flattered everyday by mass amounts of thirsty men that want just as much attention and lying has become a norm because why should a person have to reveal their true identity when they are protected by the anonymity of a screen names like taste of sugar, sunshine, hardworkingman336, or pipelayer43.

Do these descriptions truly say anything about the actual person or does it just accent the vivid imagination that they have about themselves. Taste of sugar could actually be the most bitter woman in the world, sunshine could actually be suffering from depression and anxiety, hardworkingman336 could be unemployed and living with his mother, and pipelayer43 could be, well an immigrant pipe layer that doesn’t completely understand slang.As adults it becomes increasingly harder to find love due to the fact that people are not use to being creative when it comes to socializing. Stuck in the mind frame of public school systems and college parties where people are interjected into your life by the hundreds and thousands only to be taken away once graduation day comes and goes.

Then forced into the workforce where we are discouraged from fraternizing with co-worker some people may begin to feel as if they have missed the boat and turn to bars, religious institutions, and online dating to fill that separation anxiety of being alone. At first ladies may be sweet and men may be gentlemen but when anxiety of trying something new passes it becomes a battle for control over the conversation.Some men begin sending provocative pictures thinking that every woman want to have sex with him and some women become conceited thinking that every man wants her when in fact this is not reality.When dealing with real interactions people are not so bold. Real conversations have to take place in order for a connection to be made, first impressions have to be established based on a number of things and phone number have to be exchanged which leads to a whole other realm of awkwardness.

There are stages that take place such as the first date, how their perfume or cologne smells, and/or what kind of profession they are in which opens up another dating stage somewhat like a video game. How do they treat you in person for three months, do you have the same values, do you have the same ambitions, and is the sex even good? Online dating kind of bypasses a lot of these real questions because now people are video chatting for their first date, texting each other for three months, and sending provocative videos for their first sexual experience with each other.

It’s easy to send a picture against a white wall while there are clothes everywhere that can’t be seen in a dirty house, it’s easy to text that you are waking up to brush your teeth and take a shower when the person can’t actually smell you, and it’s even easier to say you have to go to work when you don’t have to buy them dinner. So now I am going to ask this question again, is online dating running your chance for someone real?

-Keith Herbin