Treat Your Relationship Better Than Your Job

Treat Your Relationship Better Than Your Job  

Some people treat their jobs better than their households and their bosses better than their spouses. Why is that? Is it that some people feel as if the job is more important than their loved ones simply because they get a pay check? Is it that they feel more important at work than they do at home? Maybe, something has to be said about this behavior because these priorities need to change. We go to work to give our families a better life so, why doesn’t the family have a better life? I believe that it is because there is a lack of balance.

Yes, work is important but it is not as important as the family and in my opinion working for someone should be a stepping stone towards structuring the family as a business. We learn a lot from working for other such as doing things that we do not want to do, but have to do such as getting up early to be on time, putting on clean clothing to be presentable, and staying late to get noticed. If we were to apply these methods to our family life then wouldn’t it seem that things would start being a lot more joyous in the household?

This works both ways though. Both partners have to treat the family with the same respect that they treat their jobs but this is the kicker, finding the balance between responsibility and emotions. Sometimes people take each other for granted. As we discussed earlier in the week complacency kills progress and no one can appreciate a negative person so we have to work on those emotions. Yes, sometimes we may have a long and hard day at work but we should never take that out on the family because they are supposed to be why we endured that long and hard day’s work. Instead couples need to give each other some alone time to decompress when they first get home.

This should happen by taking turns each week. One person gets the first hour and the other person gets the second hour. For example, if both partners get off work at five then spouse A can relax from five-thirty to six-thirty and then it’s spouse B’s turn to relax from six-thirty to seven-thirty and then it’s time for team work. While each spouse is relaxing the other spouse needs to be doing household chores such as cooking, taking care of the kids, and whatever else needs to be done around the house. Then it’s time to switch. If kids need to be picked up from after school activities then spouse A and B need to take turns at that as well.

Never wake up angry or go to bed angry. If you are angry at work you would not throw a temper tantrum there would you? So why do this it at home? We have to realize eventually that we are adults and adults make adult decisions to control our tempers and talk about things like…adults. We also need to stop spoiling the kids and give them jobs to do as well as if they were employees of the household.

They receive allowances, toys, and necessities, right? They need to be responsible for the amenities that they are given by working for them just as you had to. This will also help them to appreciate the things that they have as well as prepare them to work a job one day. Also, if you clever you will make the family an LLC and claim some of this stuff on your taxes but that is a whole other topic to have later and I promise will.

All in all, we have to stop treating our jobs better than our families. If the boss asks you to do something you will get it done right? You see where I am going with this. Working a job is never easy, even if you work for yourself but it can be rewarding if you see the benefits from it when you come home to a loving family. By being structure you teach the kids to be structured, by being responsible you lead by example, and by controlling your emotions we show how adults handle situations. By working together, it makes everything that much easier at work and at home.

By treating the family better than the business and working towards goals and managing time together it will relieve a lot of stress and anxiety for the team. I say team because that is what a family should be, a team. At work you are sectioned off in to what? Treat your relationship better than you treat your job and I guarantee that the bonuses you get from the family will easily out weight the promotion you get from work.

-Keith Herbin